Vibes

Following on from my post a few days back where I described the effort sometimes necessary to keep friendships and relationships alive, I've also been thinking on the other side too (let's face it, everything has a balance), about how sometimes we may feel as through it's 'necessary' to hold onto relationships just because we've known the person for years or we feel we owe something to them or for whatever reason. Surely if a relationship is imbalanced, if it is not filling you with joy or another positive emotion when you think of them most of the time, perhaps it's time to re-look at where you're spending your time.  In the past I have had a somewhat cold ability to cut people out of my life with no emotional affect on myself, now I've learned that isn't perhaps the best way of dealing with things and can definitely be very mean! But finding somewhere between that and 'caring too much' I'd say is a pretty perfect viewpoint. ...

I'm 28 now, with a job and responsibilities just like most 28 year olds, and something has become more and more apparent over the years, that life continues to happen, every day we have a new lesson, a new role, a new responsibility to add to our plate that continues to overspill into our social life, and our downtime and because of this we gradually have less and less time for those around us who mean the most.  I am incredibly lucky to have some amazing friends, new ones and old ones, ones with similar interests, ones who are inspirational, ones who are there for me no matter what and some who tick all of those boxes. Yet with 'life' happening, the gaps between seeing some of these incredible people seem to get longer and longer, and I'd love to say this is through no fault of ours, that it's just 'the way life is' but I feel I'd be doing myself a disservice by spouting such rubbish. Like any relationship, friendship takes work sometimes, a lit...